A Note From Our Pastor: July 12, 2026

As a priest, I can tell you that I greatly appreciate the Church’s teachings on marriage, and yet sometimes find them to be difficult. I’ll explain.

I appreciate them because they hold firm to something we still believe important: the unchanging nature of sacraments and of their effects. In the sacraments, we believe that God actually does something within created matter—He transforms it into something new, something greater. Just as bread and wine become something different at the Mass, so do two baptized persons at their wedding.

Sacramental marriage is more than just a ritual: God unites man and woman in a bond of love. As Jesus said, regarding marriage: “…they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate” (Mk 10:8-9). In other words, as human beings we do not have the authority to “undo” a sacrament. I believe there is beauty and meaning in this teaching.

A hundred years ago, this teaching was upheld by most Christian denominations. But not anymore. A significant factor in this change came in the 1970’s, when “no-fault” divorce became widespread throughout our nation. It feels like most other Christian denominations simply gave up on this teaching. I’m grateful that as a Church, we have not, even though live in a culture where divorce and its affects are widespread.

So, why do I find the teachings on marriage difficult? Because I realize how it can be disheartening news for those who after divorce, are trying to move forward in a new relationship: “Until it’s determined and declared otherwise, you’re still presumed to be validly married to the first person. Therefore, we need to see if we can help you to be free to enter another relationship”. These words seldom come as good news, but the message is important.

There’s more to be said on matters of marriage and divorce, but for those in this situation, the Church, in a desire to help, provides a pastoral solution, even as it maintains the sanctity and permanence of marriage. There’s not enough space here to present how Canon Law guides these matters. Instead, for now, I’m seeking three or four of you to help by serving as a “advocates” (from either St. Thomas or St. Philomena). Advocates receive training on Canon Law of marriage, so that they can help people find a path to move forward. It’s an interesting ministry and is tremendously important. Please reach out to me if you want to know more about it.

I realize that all this may raise questions for any of you who are divorced and now in another relationship. I’ll have to save that for another week but inquire in the meantime.

Yours in Christ,

Father Todd O. Strange